In Search of the Perfect Soul Mate

While musing about whether there is such a thing as a soul mate, I came across this website with characteristics of a soul mate. Since I couldn't remember what website it came from, I cannot reference it here. Regardless if one is looking for a soul mate or companion, I liked the author's list. Enjoy.

1. You just know it.

Something deep inside tells you this is the perfect one for you. It’s as if there is a spiritual force pushing you to let go of everything you previously expected and to give of yourself completely.

2. You have crossed paths before.

Soulmates have met each other and a previous time. You may not have connected, but you were in the same place, at the same time. There is a sense you have lived another lifetime together.

3. Your souls meet at the right time.

Each person has to be ready to receive the soul connection. You have to be prepared to meet your soulmate. It could be that you have to go through a relationship that doesn’t work out, or that you’re not ready to ditch your “perfect person checklist,” but when it comes to soulmates- timing is everything.

4. Your quiet space is a peaceful place.

Being quiet together is comforting like a fluffy down blanket on a cold winter night. Whether you are reading in the same room, or driving in the car, there’s a quiet peace between you.

5. You can hear the other person’s silent thoughts.

With soulmates, there is such depth to your relationship that you can feel and hear what your partner is thinking, even if it is not verbally expressed. Sometimes you can sense it when you are miles apart.

6. You feel each other’s pain.

You stand in each other’s shoes. You know each other so well, that you can instantly read each other well. You feel each other’s feelings: sadness, worry, and stress. And you share each other’s happiness and joy. You comfort each other in times of sadness and revel in each other's happiness.

7. You know each other’s flaws and the benefits in them.

Yes, it’s true. Our flaws have benefits. Every trait has a positive as well as a negative side. It’s the task of each person to always look for the good, even when things don’t look so good. There is usually a benefit to each flaw. You learn to appreciate what it brings to the relationship and learn to work with it.

8.  You share the same life goals.

You’re both on the same page with values, ethics, and goals. You may have a different way of reaching those goals, but you both want the same end result for each other. 

9. You’re not afraid of having a conversation.

Conversations can be challenging, especially revolving around differences. Expressing emotional issues or attempting to make decisions is frequently uncomfortable but also cathartic. Soulmates know that transparency and open communication are critical to compromise and  join together, they will be able to work it out. 

10. You are not threatened by the need for alone time.

You respect each other’s need for independence, knowing that when you get together, your time alone is special. 

 11. You don’t experience jealousy.

No one poses a jealous threat to your relationship. You are secure knowing your partner implicitly is trustworthy because you are as well.

 12. You respect each other’s differences and opinions.

You know you have different opinions. Often soulmates are polar opposite. At times this is challenging. These are the times when you are being forced to let the other person complete you. You still have your own opinion, but instead of agreeing to disagree, there is a deep level of respect for each other. You listen and honor the differences.

13. You don’t scream, curse, or threaten each other with separation.

Of course you feel the anger. People unintentionally hurt each other. But soulmates aren’t nasty, hurtful, vindictive, or punitive.

14. You give in because you want to make your partner happy.

Giving can often occur in unhealthy, co-dependent, or abusive relationships. But soulmates give to each other for the sole purpose of making each other happy.

15. You know how to apologize.

It’s not easy to say “I’m sorry” or admit that you did something that hurt the person you love. Soulmates realize that their actions or words cause harm. Even if they feel justified in their point of view, if their partner was hurt by it, they can easily apologize for the harm they have caused.

16. You would do it all over again.

You know this is the one and only one for you. Even through the tough times, you would choose your partner again. You feel a sense of pride in your partner.

17. You complement each other.

Yes, I’m sorry to say it but, your partner fills in your blanks. No person is perfect. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Soulmates complement each other. It’s the yin and yang of perfect harmony. One person may be the extrovert, while one is the introvert. One may be social, while the other a homebody. Soulmates are often opposite that are attracted to a person who has their missing pieces.

18. Being in each other’s arms washes away all your stress, worries, and anxiety.

There is no place you’d rather be at the end of the day but in each other’s arms. If you had a rough day filled with disagreements, a fight with your boss or if you missed the train, whatever happened is gone the second you cuddle up together. There is a warmth in your heart, an inner peace you can feel. No words need to be spoken. All that exists is the silent satisfied union of two souls together.