Sunday, November 8, 2015

THE 40TH ANNIVERSARY OF THE WRECK OF THE EDMUND FITZGERALD


"SS Edmund Fitzgerald was an American Great Lakes freighter that sank in a Lake Superior storm on November 10, 1975, with the loss of the entire crew of 29. When launched on June 7, 1958, she was the largest ship on North America's Great Lakes, and she remains the largest to have sunk there.

Carrying a full cargo of ore pellets with Captain Ernest M. McSorley in command, she embarked on her ill-fated voyage fromSuperior, Wisconsin, near Duluth, on the afternoon of November 9, 1975. En route to a steel mill near Detroit, Fitz joined a second freighter, SS Arthur M. Anderson. By the next day, the two ships were caught in a severe storm on Lake Superior, with near hurricane-force winds and waves up to 35 feet (11 m) high. Shortly after 7:10 p.m., Fitzgerald suddenly sank in Canadian waters 530 feet (160 m) deep, about 17 miles (15 nautical miles; 27 kilometers) from Whitefish Bay near the twin cities of Sault Ste. Marie, Michigan, and Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario—a distance Fitzgerald could have covered in two hours at her top speed. Although Fitzgerald had reported being in difficulty earlier, no distress signals were sent before she sank; Captain McSorley's last message to Anderson said, "We are holding our own." Her crew of 29 perished, and no bodies were recovered." -Wikipedia


The Wreck Of The Edmund Fitzgerald Lyrics

The legend lives on from the Chippewa on down
Of the big lake they called 'Gitche Gumee'
The lake, it is said, never gives up her dead
When the skies of November turn gloomy
With a load of iron ore twenty-six thousand tons more
Than the Edmund Fitzgerald weighed empty.
That good ship and crew was a bone to be chewed
When the gales of November came early.

The ship was the pride of the American side
Coming back from some mill in Wisconsin
As the big freighters go, it was bigger than most
With a crew and good captain well seasoned
Concluding some terms with a couple of steel firms
When they left fully loaded for Cleveland
And later that night when the ship's bell rang
Could it be the north wind they'd been feelin'?

The wind in the wires made a tattle-tale sound
And a wave broke over the railing
And every man knew, as the captain did too,
T'was the witch of November come stealin'.
The dawn came late and the breakfast had to wait
When the Gales of November came slashin'.
When afternoon came it was freezin' rain
In the face of a hurricane west wind.

When suppertime came, the old cook came on deck sayin'.
Fellas, it's too rough to feed ya.
At seven p.m. a main hatchway caved in, he said
Fellas, it's been good t'know ya
The captain wired in he had water comin' in
And the good ship and crew was in peril.
And later that night when his lights went outta sight
Came the wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald.

Does any one know where the love of God goes
When the waves turn the minutes to hours?
The searches all say they'd have made Whitefish Bay
If they'd put fifteen more miles behind her.
They might have split up or they might have capsized;
May have broke deep and took water.
And all that remains is the faces and the names
Of the wives and the sons and the daughters.

Lake Huron rolls, Superior sings
In the rooms of her ice-water mansion.
Old Michigan steams like a young man's dreams;
The islands and bays are for sportsmen.
And farther below Lake Ontario
Takes in what Lake Erie can send her,
And the iron boats go as the mariners all know
With the Gales of November remembered.

In a musty old hall in Detroit they prayed,
In the Maritime Sailors' Cathedral.
The church bell chimed till it rang twenty-nine times
For each man on the Edmund Fitzgerald.
The legend lives on from the Chippewa on down
Of the big lake they call 'Gitche Gumee'.
Superior, they said, never gives up her dead
When the gales of November come early!
Songwriters: LIGHTFOOT, GORDON
The Wreck Of The Edmund Fitzgerald lyrics © Moose Music Ltd.

In memory of the lives lost on this day forty years ago on Lake Superior.




Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Guy Fawkes Day: Remember, Remember the 5th of November



"Guy Fawkes Night, also known as Guy Fawkes DayBonfire Night and Firework Night, is an annual commemoration observed on 5 November, primarily in Great Britain. Its history begins with the events of 5 November 1605, when Guy Fawkes, a member of the Gunpowder Plot, was arrested while guarding explosives the plotters had placed beneath the House of Lords. Celebrating the fact that King James I had survived the attempt on his life, people lit bonfires around London, and months later the introduction of the Observance of 5th November Actenforced an annual public day of thanksgiving for the plot's failure.

Don't you Remember,
The Fifth of November,
'Twas Gunpowder Treason Day,

I let off my gun,
And made'em all run.
And Stole all their Bonfire away. (1742)"    -Wikipedia



Monday, November 2, 2015

DAY OF THE DEAD-ALL SOULS DAY



"Day of the Dead or Dia de los Muertos is a series of commemorative days dedicated to those who have died. It is celebrated generally between Halloween, Oct. 31 through Nov. 2, and coincides with the Catholic holy days of All Saints (Nov. 1) and All Souls (Nov. 2).

Families often come together over this period and preparations can be made during the entire year leading up to the Day of the Dead. This is a solemn occasion, with few actual festivities. Instead, people visit and repair graves of their dearly departed. It is common to light candles, leave offerings of prepared foods, often a favorite meal, and to pray and play music. Private altars are built as focal points for small, private religious observances. Small parties, or wakes, can be held in conjunction with the holidays. Celebrations can sometimes take a humorous tone, particularly if the deceased relative was known to enjoy humor. Poems can be read and public morality plays are sometimes performed." -Catholic Online

Gone are the days we truly remember the dead. Oh sure, we have Memorial weekend but that's more associated with the start of the summer season than a time to honor those we've lost. Once the grieving of a loved one fades from memory, we tend to only remember them on significant holidays. This is what makes All Souls Day or the Day of the Dead unique.

Today is the special day we remember all of them, how they contributed to our lives, and how much we miss their presence. We are encouraged to light candles, say prayers, and leave offerings. Celebrating their lives gives our lives more meaning. Today we talk to them, release our sorrow, ask for and receive forgiveness, and let them know their lives meant something. This is a powerful day of healing for both the living and the dead. 

"Réquiem ætérnam dona ei Dómine; et lux perpétua lúceat ei. Requiéscat (Requiéscant) in pace. Amen."




Thursday, October 29, 2015

HOW I LOVE VAMPIRES!!!







HOW I LOVE GHOSTS!!!









HOW I LOVE WITCHES!!!



           
                                                                               
                                                                          


                                                                 
 


 


 



Wednesday, September 23, 2015

A Letter to an Adult Child Dealing with His Mother's Dementia

The following is a letter I wrote to a friend of my cousin's who has been struggling with his mother's rapid decline from a suspected vascular dementia. It touched me deeply to see this man tortured by watching a horrific cognitive decline which he was helpless to control. This was my response to him.

Dear K,
          I asked my cousin to send me your address because I wanted to lend you some support as you deal with your mother's health problems. It would be tempting to offer you my social work advice but I feel it is more important to offer you kind words and encouragement as you grapple with the uncertainty of your mother's decline.

         As a adult child who lived through my parent's deaths, I have the greatest empathy for what you must be going through. Watching your parent age and live through the declining years conjures up deep internal struggles involving saying goodbye to the way it was. When my mother had her massive stroke, it felt like my whole world crumbled leaving me with an excruciating sense of helplessness and emotional pain. There is no way to prepare for or grapple with the emotional wake of parental illness. There were times I would burst into tears unexpectedly after my mother's stroke and I'm not a crying kind of woman. I wanted so desperately to protect her from the suffering she was experiencing. To watch as a bystander to her struggles was unbearable at times, especially knowing I was powerless to stop it. Anxiety, sadness, and feeling overwhelmed unfortunately comes with this territory-it is also known as grieving. Saying goodbye to the mother who has always been there for you is agonizing.  I've heard it said that grieving shared is grieving halved. I do know a loving shoulder to cry on will help vent the buildup of emotion. May you be comforted and find peace during this ordeal.

         No matter what happens to your mother, I know you will do your best to see she has the highest quality of care. She is blessed by having you as such a staunch advocate and loving son. Because she is cognizant of her rapid decline, she is a both a prisoner and victim of the cruelty of her disease. Please know that whether she can recognize this or not, you are providing her with alternatives to keep her safe and functioning. Unfortunately, she is like a drowning woman who doesn't realize what the life preserver thrown to her does. 

        But my concern remains with you because you are a witness to this and are the main decision maker. Sometimes this means you are in a no-win situation. I was with my mother when she had her final cardiac arrest and had to tell the arrest team to stop. To this day, many of my family members have not forgiven me for that decision. But she had told me (and only me) a few weeks before her death she did not want ever to be resuscitated. I have no regrets about this. Please do not regret or ruminate about the decisions you make to provide her with appropriate care. You truly are doing the best you can.

       Familial politics tend to complicate this landscape further. For example, when I was feeling sad about my mom, my sisters would be angry and upset. This tends to make one feel stranded and alone. So you are not only dealing with a lovely mother who is disabled but a family trying to come to grips their issues in their own way. There is no template for the right way to deal with this.

       You are not alone. Your support system will be invaluable as you put one foot in front of another. Those of us who have been through this will know what you are dealing with and will offer our strength to you as cope with each step along the way. Remember to be kind to yourself, give yourself a break, allow yourself to grieve these changes, and ask for help when you need it. You can always count on me.