Saturday, September 29, 2018

Thank you, Dr. Christine Blasey Ford


Dear Dr. Blasey Ford,
         On behalf of all women who have endured sexual harassment, unwanted sexual advances, sexual degradation, and sexual victimization, we applaud your courage to testify against your abuser. It may have been decades ago, but as you have so truthfully revealed, sexual violation in any form encodes memories that cannot be easily erased or dismissed. Your powerful testimony, while standing up to an all male Senate committee, proves we may be outnumbered but we will not be silenced. By confronting your politically entitled abuser, you have empowered women who have endured sexual exploitation to bravely come forward and name their predators. Thank you for your fearlessness in the face of adversity. You are an inspiration. 


Thursday, September 20, 2018

WHY WOMEN DON'T TELL (MOSTLY MEN) ABOUT HAVING BEEN SEXUALLY VIOLATED

To be a girl or woman is to quickly learn that no matter how one behaves or dresses, sooner or later you will be the recipient of unwanted sexual behavior in the form of derogatory innuendo, demeaning catcalls, blatant harassment, duress, coercion, threats, and/or outright assault. As women, we have been given strong messages from a primarily white, male, straight culture that women usually make up these stories or were asking for it. In institutions and court systems, we see time after time that sexual behavior goes frequently unpunished or with a slap on the hand (a la the Stanford Swimmer). No wonder women don't tell men these stories of violation, preferring to reveal their secrets to their closest women confidantes. They may not tell their family, their husbands, or law enforcement, but they will tell another woman. Why? Because we have heard these stories from other women all of our lives.

So why don't women tell or report these incidents? Here is the list I've compiled from women I've known who've experienced varying degrees of unwanted sexual behavior from men:
1. No one will believe me-it's his word against mine.
2. It happened so long ago, why dredge this up? It will only make me upset. I got over this long ago.
3. I don't want to loose my job, social standing, or reputation.
4. If my family found out (about the incest) they would blame me, fracture my family, or cause my
    family member to face legal consequences.
5. The man who assaulted me is powerful and has threatened me or bribed me to keep silent.
6. I will be blamed for enticing the unwanted behavior.
7. I am ashamed that this happened.
8. I am to blame or feel I contributed to my victimization.
9. There is no evidence that the sexual incident happened.
10. I should have known better.
11. My family and friends will think I deserved what happened.
12. I am afraid to face the perpetrator.
13. It was all a part of 'normal' male behavior. Boys will be boys.
14. If I don't keep it a secret, bad things could happen.
15. I wouldn't have gotten ahead if I hadn't succumbed to his advances.
16. I will end up being the one punished and/or embarrassed because of what happened.
17. No one will get hurt as long as I keep it a secret.
18. It was no big deal. It wasn't that bad. I got over this long ago.
19. If I tell I will be scrutinized, belittled, and my credibility will be impeached.
20. I will be smeared as a liar.
21. I will be the target of jokes, memes, and other demeaning insults.
22. My sexual history will be used to further 'confirm' that I deserved what I got.
23. I will be seen as trying to extort the 'good' man who committed the offense.
24. So much time has gone by that I will be accused of making this up.
25. I could jeopardize my personal and professional standing by coming forward.


The "me, too" movement has awakened our society to the extent of women's experiences with unwanted sexual behavior. However, we have a long way to go before the message is heard that no woman deserves to be sexually violated.

This blog is dedicated to Anita Hill, who bravely testified about the sexual harassment she endured while working for Clarence Thomas (now Justice of the Supreme Court), at the EEOC and the Department of Education.


"According to Hill, Thomas asked her out socially many times during her two years of employment as his assistant,and, after she declined his requests, he used work situations to discuss sexual subjects."He spoke about ... such matters as women having sex with animals and films showing group sex or rape scenes," she said, adding that on several occasions Thomas graphically described "his own sexual prowess" and the details of his anatomy. Hill also recounted an instance in which Thomas examined a can of Coke on his desk and asked, "Who has put pubic hair on my Coke?" -Wikipedia












Friday, September 7, 2018

I WROTE THE OP-ED NY TIMES 'STEADY RESISTANCE' PIECE


No, I really didn't but wish I had. It was brilliant. The anonymous 
writer succinctly captured what the majority of us have been 
thinking since Trump assumed office. How heartening it is to know
there is an inside revolt. At least there are some decent people left who know sabotage is the best defense against a corrupt dictatorship.

The joke is on the joker president who behaves like a imperious autocrat stoned on narcissism pills. His vicious and inhumane administration's policies have come back to bite him in his ass. 
Now he doesn't know whom to trust. His karma has come home to roost. He will forever eye anyone in his inner circle with suspicion. 
Even the Secret Service will not be able to protect him from his self-absorption, greed, and despot ways. What a fitting term of office for one rivaling Buchanan and Harding as the worst American president. 

I encourage everyone to write Mr. Trump and voice their approval of Bob Woodward's book and the NY Times op-ed. We still live in a democracy where the First Amendment is alive and well.




Wednesday, July 4, 2018

Another Thought On the Fourth of July


From The Daily Word:
"I celebrate my freedom as a gift.
Rather than stressing about decisions
I need to make, I celebrate instead 
my freedom to choose. I see my choices
as blessings, each one leading to a 
different possible outcome.
I learn from my actions as well as my
choices. Failures are learning 
opportunities. Experience combined 
with inner guidance helps me choose 
wisely. Throughout my life I learn from 
the past as I envision the future, mindful 
of this moment in time.
Because I have been given the gift of free 
will, I always have the ability to see from
new and different perspectives if I choose.
I celebrate my freedom through my 
thoughtful and purposeful actions, making
a positive difference in my life and in 
the lives of others."

Friday, June 22, 2018

SUFFER THE LITTLE CHILDREN

This is the message, hidden or not, FLOTUS just gave to thousands of children incarcerated who are separated from their mothers:













This is why we care, Melania:












"In the first few days after separation, the children are expected to protest by crying and acting out in ways that 
reflect a desperate effort to secure the return of their
parents. Within a few weeks, they appear to lapse into 
despair, seemingly without hope for a returning parent. 
They show little energy or motivation to play and explore.
After less than a month or so, Bowlby observed that the children “seem detached,” Van IJzendoorn said. If the parents return, the children seem aloof and avoid the parents’ efforts to comfort and cuddle.
“It might take some months of careful, sensitive interactions to repair the damage done to the attachment relationship of the child,” Van IJzendoorn said. “The parents have failed the child, and he or she has lost trust in his or her attachment figures, and the wider social world seems hostile. … Their basic trust has been damaged.” 
-the LA TIMES

Sunday, June 17, 2018

THE INHUMANE POLICY OF SEPARATING IMMIGRANT CHILDREN FROM THEIR PARENTS



"WASHINGTON ― Attorney General Jeff Sessions seems

to think Jesus would love his policy of separating immigrant
families at the border.
Christian leaders say otherwise.
“While protecting our borders is important, we can and must do
better as a government, and as a society, to find other ways to
ensure that safety,” Cardinal Daniel Nicholas DiNardo, president
of the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops, said in a statement.
Separating babies from their mothers is not the answer and is
immoral.”- cnn news

Mr.Trump can blame the Democrats and Mr. Sessions can justify his deplorable
detainment by quoting the Bible but separating immigrant children from their 
families is just plain immoral. The stories of bereft toddlers crying inconsolably 
for their mothers, children horribly frightened with separation anxiety,
and babies being taken from their mothers while nursing, are
institutional child abuse. Below is the same reaction from
The American Academy of Pediatrics:

"In a newly released policy statement, the Academy urges that
immigrant and refugee children be treated with dignity and
respect, with care that supports their health and well-being.
Amid turmoil caused by new federal executive orders targeting
immigrants and refugees and calling for vast expansions to the 
detention of immigrants, the American Academy of Pediatrics has 
called for the U.S. government to protect vulnerable children who
are fleeing violence and poverty from being traumatized.

Immigrant children seeking safe haven in the United States should
never be placed in detention facilities, regardless of whether they 
arrive alone or are accompanied by an adult, according to a new
policy statement published by the American Academy of 
Pediatrics (AAP). Children should never be separated from their
families, according to the statement.

The policy statement recommends that immigrant children be treated 
with dignity and respect, and urges that they not be exposed to 
conditions that may further harm or traumatize them. The statement,
"Detention of Immigrant Children," to be published in the April 2017
issue of Pediatrics (online March 13) reports that the Department of 
Homeland Security facilities for temporary housing of immigrants do 
not meet basic standards regarding the care of children in residential 
settings.

"Many of the immigrant children arriving to this country from our 
southern border are victims of unspeakable violence, persecution,
and abject poverty," said Fernando Stein, MD, FAAP, president of
 the AAP. 
"From the moment they are placed in U.S. custody, they deserve
a warm, safe and nurturing environment. They should receive
health care that meets basic standards."

The AAP policy statement, "Detention of Immigrant Children," is
being published at a time of increased fear, anxiety, and uncertainty
among immigrant families. The AAP opposes the recent call for major 
expansions in family detention, among other actions, that have been
included in Executive Orders signed by President Trump. 

"We are hearing reports about children who have been detained, even
for a short time, who are showing symptoms of post-traumatic stress
disorder, anxiety, depression and behavioral problems," said Marsha 
Griffin, MD, FAAP, co-author of the policy statement and co-chair of the 
AAP Immigrant Health Special Interest Group. "There is no evidence 
that spending any time in detention is safe for children. Parents, too, 
may be traumatized by the isolating conditions, making it difficult for 
them to respond to their children's needs." 
-The American Academy of Pediatrics

I urge everyone to join me by emailing the President to protest this
incredibly inhumane and abusive treatment of immigrant children. 

Monday, April 30, 2018

The Case of the Missing White House Tree


In a united gesture of goodwill, Trump and President Macron planted a tree on the White House grounds. Now it has mysteriously gone missing. What happened to this icon of hope? Here are the current conspiracy theories as to what happened to it:

-Scott Pruitt was worried planting a tree might somehow lead to a discussion on climate change and had it redacted.

-Secretary of the Interior Ryan Zinke sold it to one of his lumber lobbyists.

-The lone French tree knew Trump's immigration policy would have it deported eventually. Knowing it had a better chance at surviving where it came from, it booked the first plane back to Paris.

-Melania had it dug up, flocked, and stored for her next Halloween-like Christmas extravaganza.

-Michael Cohen is secretly representing the tree which means the New York Attorney General's office has secured it as evidence.

-The chilly environmental policies of the Trump administration froze it to death.

-Sarah Huckabee Sanders claims there never was any tree. It was all just fake news.

-Jeff Sessions has recused himself from the investigation so we may never know what really happened to it.

-Eric Trump cut it up and mounted for a trophy. After all, it was on the endangered species list.

-White supremacists cut it down protesting the opening of the Peace and Justice Museum.

-Trump and Macron's bromance upset Pence so much he feared the tree was gay and had it put in a closet.

-Trump suspected the tree was actually a Comey plant and had it fired.

-The tree was not big enough to provide enough wood to burn Stormy, along with Trump's other embarrassing sexual liaisons, at the stake. Can you say kindling?


-After Macron's surprising diss of Trump's policies in front of Congress, Trump had the tree sent to Guantanamo.

-Michelle Wood's brutal take down of Trump at the White House Correspondents' Dinner soured him on all things wood. Guilt by association led to its mysterious disappearance.