Sunday, April 20, 2014

Resurrection

          Today we celebrate the highest holy day of the year: Easter. As a child, I was more interested in the candy I would be getting in my Easter basket than the celebrating a concept like resurrection. Besides, Easter heralded spring, new Easter dresses, and a chance to spend more time outdoors in warmer temps. All I knew is that I would no longer have to suffer abstaining from my Lenten pledge, wear dark heavy winter clothes, and could anticipate the return of verdant greens and spring bulbs bursting with color.

      This year the word resurrection has a different meaning. Though I tend to view Catholicism cynically, I am still deeply moved and influenced by my parochial upbringing. Having failed to fully live up to my Lenten practice does not necessarily negate the significance of the meaning of resurrection in my life. In Jungian terms, I view resurrection symbolically and spiritually. Resurrection is defined as, “rising from the dead or rising from decay: revival”. What has been revived? Here is this season’s resurrection list and a little about the people who have made my revival possible:

·        First on my list is the resurrection of my eyesight. Thank you, Dr. R. When I saw him last week I told him no person had a greater impact on my health this year. Having 20/20 vision has been nothing short of a miracle. To see the fullness of color, subtle visual detail, and have such sharp clarity has altered everything. When he told me I would be seeing perfectly again within hours after surgery, I thought it was a surgeon’s boast. Now I realize how exceptional this man’s skills are. I credit him with giving me a whole new outlook-literally.
·        Second on my list is the resurrection of intimacy. Thank you, James. It took ten years, a man of persistence, and a number of incredibly funny texts and emails for me to finally give in. His disarming ways and tenderness with me made me an amnesiac to my obstacles. The result transformed my life in ways I cannot begin to number. Part of me has come back from the dead, awakening the physical. But the impacts were not just bodily-it opened me up to the delights of intimacy and the fun a male presence brings to my life. The awakening of the second chakra is also associated with emotion, creativity, and clairsentience. The result: my body, mind, and spirit are experiencing a Renaissance.   
·         Third on my list is the resurrection of my friend Helen’s life by a medical team in LA. Thank you West Hills Hospital. Helen, a woman in her eighties, has been a significant part of my life for about twenty-five years. Last week she nearly died from a respiratory arrest. She is the only person I call on a daily basis. Even though we are totally different women, we have formed a tight bond. I appreciate how she compliments my life. She is a unique crone of unparalleled depth and intelligence. Having more time to argue with her, get exasperated by her stubbornness, and laugh at our contentious relationship, is precious.
·         Fourth on my list is Christian, the twenty-six year old puer aeternus vagabond. Thank you, Christian. Christian came into my life when James exited. I cannot think of a better diversion for a heartbreak than mothering a lost soul. It is astounding after years of being a recluse, I would agree to allow a male live with me even temporarily. This has been an incredible concession to my privacy but a good one. There is something about magical about how we interact. He softens me up and I seem to give him needed structure. He has restored my faith in men. How? By deftly knowing how to handle my eccentricities-something the older males of his gender do not grasp. Christian has renewed my hope of meeting an age appropriate male with whom I may also share a similar bond. His playfulness, ability to verbalize feelings, and adaptability inspire me.
·        The final person on my resurrection list is my internist, Dr. M. Thank you, Dr. M. When he became my physician over thirteen years ago right out of his residency, I groaned. The thought of training this young pup to adapt to my medical philosophy seemed daunting. Surprisingly, he acclimated to my steadfast refusal for pharmaceutical interventions for a number of my medical issues. He knows I will relent if necessary, but I am a firm believer in the less meds the better. He has also been remarkably accepting of my use of supplements. Two and a half years ago he diagnosed me with insulin resistance. Unlike most physicians who would put me on Metformin, he trusted my level of medical knowledge and motivation to get my blood sugars under control. This Lenten season my blood glucose readings consistently hit the 70s, I have lost twenty pounds, and there are no other health repercussions from my now controlled hyperglycemia.

     “If you live in the dark a long time and the sun comes out, you do not cross into it whistling. There's an initial uprush of relief at first, then-for me, anyway- a profound dislocation. My old assumptions about how the world works are buried, yet my new ones aren't yet operational. There's been a death of sorts, but without a few days in hell, no resurrection is possible.” ― Mary Karr, Lit 

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