There is a particular phase of childhood all parents of toddlers experience with great frustration. It is called "the language of no" and is usually coupled with behavior called 'oppositional defiance'. In this developmental stage, toddlers begin repetitively saying 'no' and throw tantrums when they do not get their way. Further, it is conjectured that parents get a second chance at these same challenging behaviors when their children become adolescents. And, if these developmental behaviors are not resolved in adolescence, they may become a permanent fixed pattern of dealing with problems in adulthood.
"Specific Symptoms of Oppositional Defiant Disorder
- A pattern of negativistic, hostile, and defiant behavior lasting at least 6 months, during which four (or more) of the following are present:
- often loses temper
- often argues with adults
- often actively defies or refuses to comply with adults’ requests or rules
- often deliberately annoys people
- often blames others for his or her mistakes or misbehavior
- is often touchy or easily annoyed by others
- is often angry and resentful
- is often spiteful or vindictive" -psychcentral.com
Sound familiar?
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